Friendship Tales

I had a friend who after the graduation ceremony in college did not bother to show her face anymore. She just disappeared, like thin smoke. At first we tried to contact her. We were worried that there was something wrong that is why she doesn’t attend our gatherings. We were really concerned about her. But she did not even have the decency to talk to us. It is as if our closeness during college times was all fluke. All along, she can just turn her back to us, shrug her shoulders, walk away and never look back. After several years, she made her existence known. Though no one was interested with her come back. Did she think that we would just welcome her with open arms? What she did is unforgivable since she did not really explain herself and offered an apology. She betrayed and abandoned us. It was so much better with out her, why will we welcome her back?

I had another friend who I sincerely thought would be my lifelong friend. I trusted her and treated her like a sister. Then in one blink of an eye, we fell apart. With just one innocent question, she got mad at me. She did not even let me try to speak to her. I attempted several times to approach her, but she just ignored me. Until I also gave up, I can’t bear anymore that she won’t even acknowledge me. I can’t help but think that she won’t miss me much because she finally had a boyfriend. So what if I will be out of her life as long as there is a guy with him. She doesn’t need me anymore. And I am not bitter at all. The truth is, I understand her. There is no space for me in her life. And that is okay with me. We see each other almost everyday, but things will never be the same between us again.

Looking back, I also nearly lost my good friend, Melissa. I used to be a bad friend. I always show up late and even don’t show up at all. She was so annoyed at me that she stopped talking to me on the phone or dismissed me coldly. I knew I deserved that. But I don’t want to lose her. So I apologized and promised that I will become a better friend. She accepted me. And I am happy that she celebrated her 20something birthday with me. We had been friends since high school and I intend to keep that until this lifetime and beyond.